Saturday 12 April 2014

Stomping ground

I went out yesterday; it's been a while! Put on my lipstick (the colour of a pimento pepper, I just noticed that it's called 'Kiss of Life') and went out to meet my two old schoolfriends. We go back 40 years and I've written about them before here. And one of them was the friend who wrote the letter I mentioned a few posts ago on this blog too. She had no recollection of obsessing about Sham 69 and Jimmy Pursey in 1978, by the way, but the evidence was there in black and white....  We got the giggles.

Our rendezvous, as usual, was in the town where we all grew up together. The town where we went to school, the town where we learned to ride bikes and swim, where we puffed tentatively on our first cigarettes, where we had our first clumsy kisses, our first pint of warm cider, our first naïve fumbles with dodgy boyfriends. Our first of many gig experiences too – which we reminded ourselves about when we'd finished our lunch and went on a mini-tour of our old stomping ground. We pulled in at the old maltings building which used to be our rather excellent little music venue, where we had seen the Banshees in January 1978, Adam and the Ants the following year, and countless other bands of varying degrees of notoriety and ability. In retrospect we reckoned we were so lucky, growing up in a rural town but only 45 minutes by train from London. We had fields, woods and riding stables at one end, a rock/punk club (and jazz and folk if you wanted it too) plus the Granada cinema at the other... our homes on the hilly streets between.

The town has changed; like most places it's bigger than it was even 20 years ago, new estates on its perimeter have spread progressively outwards like ripples on water, buildings in its centre have grown upwards like plants struggling to reach sunlight in crowded beds. But its heart still does have some heart, in spite of the increase in boho-chic shops with French names and the ubiquitous estate agents. The road by the market square still has its brick style paving, overlooked by buildings dating back to the 14th century, even though they now sport their Mexican and Italian restaurant chain frontages. I never really noticed the beauty of the architecture as a kid - you don't, do you? - never thought about the history of the half-timbered houses or grand Georgian facades.

But you didn't really want to read about all that, did you? No, well... if you really must know, my first naïve fumble was with a boy called John in the bushes by the playing fields behind my house, on a Spring afternoon after school. I really didn't know what he was doing, nor what I was supposed to do either, everything felt unknown and daunting - my childhood had been so very innocent up to then.  As I said to my friends yesterday: “It was hard...”   Oh, I didn't mean like that! That's for me to know and you to wonder about.  Growing up with lovely friends like mine, though, everything else really was quite easy, and picking up where we left off all these decades later always is too.

8 comments:

  1. They say the past is a foreign country but it's nice to travel from time to time. You are so lucky to have friends from your childhood. Lovely post.

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    1. Thanks SB. Yes I do feel lucky to have maintained these particular friendships!
      A bit of time travel is nice as you say. I don't hanker for my past, but it's lovely to revisit memories of the experiences that make us who we are - and indulge warmly in a few of them with the friends who shared them!

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  2. A lovely post C. I just got home from a 24 hour catch up with old friends myself and it sounds as if some of our conversations covered similar territories to yours. We laughed, we reminisced, we drank a little too much (which actually isn't very much at all nowadays) and we wondered whatever happened to the foolish young men we used to be.

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    1. Thank you - and how great that your own catch-up with old friends chimes in so nicely too, sounds like you had a lovely time. There's great comfort to be had in growing older with long-term friends I think, yet when you're with them you get a simultaneous sense of agelessness!

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  3. I can't complain too bitterly because Martha got me out of the bargain but at 15, with all ages shows being played everywhere except for crap towns in the rural Midwest, my Daddy got a promotion and we moved up north to an exceptionally crap town in the rural Midwest. No shows...no movies even.

    There was fiddling about...they do that even in crap towns up north.

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    1. Crap towns are everywhere... there's no cinema or music club where I am now (it's not crap to me, but I would have hated it as a 14 year old I'm sure) I suppose there's the internet instead....?

      I think I was lucky. Even with the fiddling about ;-)

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  4. Lovely post C. Thank you. I enjoy your writing style. Warm, inclusive, fluid, chatty, touching and with a clear-eyed intelligence and insight. Lovely blog. x

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    1. Thanks so much, mujerlibre, I really appreciate that and so glad you've enjoyed.
      I'm drawn to your blog for the same reasons! x

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